It has been mostly positive reinforcement of the goodness of perfectionism by our society. However, I would think it is probably better to realized earlier in your life that perfection does not exist in this world, on human being unless what you mean is perfectly imperfect. Therefore, it is enough to try your best, rather than to be perfect. Girls who grow up in wealthy families have everything they desire since they could remember things. It all seems perfect for them. However, what happens when they cannot, when they realize that they are not actually a princess and at some point in their life they are sure to feel frustrated? I am lucky that I was not nurtured in a “perfect family”. Watching parents bicker, fight and eventually divorce did sadden me when I was a kid, but it also did prepare me for my strong personality against hardship and the realization that this world is imperfect. And it is ok being that way.

As I am almost 30 now, I reflect more on those incidents in life that I cared tremendously, and false ideas I lived by in the past. I am more of an extroverted girl, and thus has a natural positive attitude towards happenings, or maybe force out a strong me battling obstacles. Therefore, those incidents do not bother me that much then. However, it dawned on me recently that most past unpleasant memories are merely over reaction towards something not worth minding that much really, and was exaggerated greatly in the memory by negative emotions at that moment. You can imagine, when you are sad about or scared of something, you tend to magnify the hardship and fear of them, which makes you feel even worse. Generally things get pretty bad when you do not understand that it is actually really nothing, or at least not that big a thing that you need to drown yourself  in sadness and fear for that long a time. But dear all, it is fine because imperfection is perfectly normal as you are a human being who err, and learn. Most of the time, the cases are you being not satisfied of yourself, or even resent yourself for being not perfect as you wished. The most typical dissatisfaction about oneself is being diffident of your appearance or part of your body, which you cannot control and are overreacting based on others’ feedback.

So here is what I want to suggest:

1. You cannot control how you look since that’s more of a gene thing, and you can be pretty by being true to yourself, smart and kind to people.

2. Superficial beauty is skin deep and does not last long. The beauty of your mind is what you should work on.

3. Maybe you are not as what most people would like, but you are pretty to someone because you rock yourself to supersede skin-deep traditional beauty. That is the real beauty.

4. Word to live: Being healthy and converse more with great minds through reading!